Often in conversations consulting the Tarot or Astrological charts, questions about relationships come up.
Am I in the right one?
Where do I find the perfect match for me?
How do I operate effectively in my relationship?
I love these questions, exploring your personality, unique proclivities for engaging with others and occasionally the subconscious block.
The interesting element in all of these conversations is that our relationships come down to the thoughts we have about them.
Quite literally our relationships are in our minds and it is up to us to determine what thoughts are either helping that relationship or hindering it.
We all have manuals for how we want others to show up and when expectations are not met, it feels as though the relationship is ‘off.’
Missed expectations, give power to the other person and do not put us in the driver’s seat of creating and cultivating the best relationships for ourselves.
We take our power back by being honest with ourselves about the quality of our relationships.
This is why I recommend a regular quality check-in for relationships with my clients.
We look at the 5 most important relationships in their lives and assess several elements.
- How they feel after an interaction with that person
- What commonalities they enjoy in the relationship
- What the give/receive percentage is between the people involved. The give and receive is based on your criteria, but can look like: (listening/talking) (helping/providing help) (initiating/receiving)
- What the net energetic impact is of the relationship (optimistic/pesimistic)
I encourage you to take a look at your relationships with this lens.
If you find yourself feeling out of balance after this assessment, ask yourself what am I craving in my relationships? What may be the yin to my yang?
Also, where may I be able to ‘give more’ to ‘receive more’ in a relationship I want to deepen and ensure balance within?
When we feel solid in the foundation of our relationships, we build our capacity for love.
When love increases in our life we become a match for the experiences and outcomes we crave.
